Every time I share aspects of my life with her ... she critiques them, often unsolicitedly, making me second-guess my decisions.

Struggling for Independence Dear Struggling for Independence: It’s clear you value both your independence and your relationship with your mother. Expressing your need for support rather than criticism is not only reasonable but necessary for a healthy adult relationship.

I’m starting to avoid sharing any personal news with her at all to dodge the inevitable criticism. I understand she might be doing this out of love, but it feels more controlling than caring. How can I communicate my need for support without her judgment?

In today's Dear Annie column, an adult woman just wants her mom's support and not the criticism that comes with it.