Dear Struggling for Independence: It’s clear you value both your independence and your relationship with your mother. Expressing your need for support rather than criticism is not only reasonable but necessary for a healthy adult relationship.

Every time I share aspects of my life with her ... she critiques them, often unsolicitedly, making me second-guess my decisions.

My mother, who is now 62, has always been a dominant personality, keen on having things go her way. I’m 34, an independent graphic designer, and I pride myself on

I’m starting to avoid sharing any personal news with her at all to dodge the inevitable criticism. I understand she might be doing this out of love, but it feels more controlling than caring. How can I communicate my need for support without her judgment?

In today's Dear Annie column, an adult woman just wants her mom's support and not the criticism that comes with it.