DEAR LIVING: Of COURSE your wife is trying to make you feel guilty! The best defense is a strong offense. She didn’t lie to you once -- your entire marriage has been a continuous lie. Are you even sure the children are yours and not one of her lovers’?

For the past 10 years or more, my wife has recklessly spent our joint savings and my pension savings, taken out credit cards in my name without my knowledge and put us through bankruptcy. We now have over $50k in debt with nothing left.

As far as I’m concerned, my marriage is over. For the past 10 years or more, my wife has recklessly spent our joint savings and my pension savings, taken out credit cards in my name without my knowledge and put us through bankruptcy.

Dear Abby weighs in on a wife whose put her and her husband in immense debt and a son who never healed from his parents' divorce.

After 10 years of being with my wife, including eight years of marriage, I accidentally discovered she was having affairs online. She put me through weeks of lies, denial, minimizing and obfuscating before finally giving me full disclosure.

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